When You Are Caught In A Bind

You feel at the end of your nervous energy resources. You feel weak in the knees. Your body feels unable to stand the tension. You are stretched to the limit. Fine fingers pluck at your nerves—like someone playing on a taut violin! This may be termed as short-term. This may not grind you to ground. Usually, what grinds people is a long-term tension and stress. These may include harsh work hours, transportation difficulties from home to work place, indifferent health, illness, a bad marital relationship or money problems.   Some real life situations cannot be avoided, you may take them in your stride. You can go down on your knees.   How does your system react?   Your system reacts with physiological mechanisms. The "stress-centre" responds to events, activates the glands.   Hans Selye, Canadian physician, however, believes that tension often gives the motivation, and energy to achieve success.   Stage fright, tension producer, spurs an actor to give better performance. Tension about academic rank may prod a student to work harder. If you are well and balanced, you can manage tensions in your life. You are tension hardy. William James found that people too much preoccupied with the result of their action often blunder or mess up. Those who focus on their action alone do their best. He suggest, "Unclamp your intellec-tual machinery and let it run free." You become awkward when you strain on a thing. You think too much what others say or think. Let the thing do itself, nor others' think. You do the right thing.   Let Go All that you need to cultivate and hone is the art of letting go. This is necessary today more than ever; you need it in work, job and going up the ladder. You grow responsive to this, you lose your jitters. The stress and strain disappear. Your performance improves. Be aware of your 'hurrism'. Construct speed-breakers. Listen to your inner self. How you have ignored it for long. Socrates says: have a dialogue with your soul.   Tension produces weird sensations in all part of the body that you look in every other direction but the right one for a solution. However, diverse and alarming the symptoms, there is a solution: bring the nerves back to normal from their over-stretched condition. To overshoot at times does not matter. The body is recuperative, but to continue day after day in a state above the mark, is bound to bring disaster.   The sooner you realise it, the better. You cannot play fast and loose with nature. It imposes penalties. The system stretched to the straining point over a long period, becomes unable to perform its normal work. It cries for normalcy. Like your system to a piece of elastic. This gives useful service for a considerable time. If it is kept at full tension, it soon becomes limp or snaps. A constant feeling of being mentally over-tired produces restlessness and inability to relax. It accentuate the tiredness, and a vicious circle is set in. Other symptoms of excessive tension are irritability, impatience, bad temper, lack of interest in work, disinclination for bodily exertion, craving for alcohol or drugs. You can attain Kipling's ideal: "keep your head, when all about you are losing theirs!" This is all the more necessary during "rush periods" when tension is at its highest pitch and you feel like bursting. Let go.   Live an hour at a time. The sense of being overwhelmed by situations often results from cluttering today with regrets about yesterdays, and fears about tomorrow. Do not rush to silly stars foretell columns. Nor pay any heed to tarot card fortune tellers. They are charlatans. They sell falsehood to mentally bankrupt people. Short breaks are productive. Even if you have a few minutes' break, use it by covering the eyes with the palms of the hand. This is not only effective in closing the mind to external things, but is also soothing to the eyes.   If you are a highly-strung person, check tendency to quick, jerky movements. You need more powerful brakes. Reason and foresight will supply them.   Do not think that you can appear busy by getting into a stew, and putting everybody else into one. You are easily exhausted by your so-called earnest effort. You know some who are ever busy without doing any work!   It is good to be conscientious, oversensitive places a great strain on your nervous system. If you do your best, you cannot do more. If you lie awake at night and think about some error you made during the day, that is unwise and harmful. Get a correct perspective. A human error is easily adjusted, should you accidentally make one.   Even a hard job lessens tension when it is done with a smile and a willing heart. And smiling is largely a matter of habit. You will find that lowering the eyelids and consciously forcing the eyes into a smile will take the sting out of the stiff job.   Work hard, but not beyond your natural limit of endurance. Over- fatigue will affect your work tomorrow. If your work gets you down find the cause and correct it. But think twice before you blame the work itself. Examine your attitude and approach.   You must use care in planning so that it does not upset the balance with work. You must plan with the idea of building up energy. Do not stick your head into the fire and then complain of being burnt! The more hectic your work, the quieter should be your leisure. You have to work for it. Cultivate it. Plan work and use of time. Use spare time in preparing for busier times ahead. You leave everything till the last minute. You will complain being always rushed.   Rushed? Do not mind what others do. Let them have their fun. Or dissipate themselves at nightclubs. You may appear "idle". This is important for you. Walt Whitman says, "I will loaf and contain my soul." Do your own thing. If you like reading, you are fortunate. If you do not, train yourself to like it. There are thousands of good books, which not only entertain but also instruct. Do not think that all books are dry and heavy. You get many a thrill when you come across passages that have a bearing upon, or can be applied to, your own life. It is never too late to take up painting, drawing or music. Even if you do not get proficiency, you will pleasure in "growing". Constructive hobbies stabilise the nervous system. Retire to bed at an easy hour. Respond to natural inclinations. It is the person who is keyed-up who wants to go on until the early hours of the morning. A sense of humour makes life easy. A poor man went to a rich one and pleaded for money. The latter called his servant and said, 'Throw this man out.' His story is breaking my heart. Training in small things is useful in dealing with larger problems. If you are completely relaxed, noise and minor irritations do not affect you.   Francis Gay says, "If we were a little kinder to our ownselves, a trifle more cheerful, we would find our life a lot more easier to live in." When caught in a bind, ask yourself: What is the use of storing all manner of ideas and facts in your mind if it does not help you grapple with the difficulties?

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with warm regards


Harish Sati
Fortune Institute of International Business
Plot no. 5, Vasant Gaon, Rao Tula Ram Marg
Opp. R.R. Army Hospitial, New Delhi- 110057
Mobile No:- 09990646343
E-mail:- Harish.sati@gmail.com


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